PP#3 Caity Tirakian Period-1
Title: Helicopter Crash
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It may seem as though making things easier for your child or choosing their decisions may be helpful for them, but in fact, these actions lead to more negative implications for both the parent and the child outweigh the good ones. The first implication is that kids with parents who try to live through them vicariously are losing their self-esteems because of the pressures of perfection. Not only do kids have the pressure to be perfect, but they have the pressure that if they do succeed the parent will become jealous of the child’s success. According to “A Matter of Personality” written by David M. Allen “If the child succeeds in getting through medical school, the mother may become depressed… In response, the “successful” children may then get depressed themselves.” There’s no way to win. Children think that no matter what parents won’t be satisfied. Kids already have the pressure to be perfect from the pressures of society, coaches, or other peers meaning that losing can “feel like a double-failure to the child,” when they have parent who is applying this same intense stress on them. Regardless of parenting style, most parents want the best for their children. Yet, these “helicopter parents” take it to the extreme; they don’t want their children to face any hardships so they take matters into their own hands. Children with these types of parents aren’t being given the space to struggle on their own which means they lack the development of problem solving skills and independence.
Further research question: How can helicopter parenting be prevented or stopped?
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